Negative thinking traps that hold us back.

Firstly Happy New Year! Everyone likes to jump on the resolution bandwagon but here’s a couple of things I think we should definitely drop for 2017.

Thinking the grass is greener on the other side.
The idea of being envious of someone on the ‘other side’ is a dead end mentality, surely if you are busy looking at others doesn’t the same apply to them? The notion of not being grateful for what we have and constantly looking over at others is draining and can leave one feeling bitterly dissatisfied with life.
Instead of following this old saying, flip it on its head with the mentality that ‘the grass is greener where you water it!’
Falling into the trap of resenting others for their successes is a poisonous attitude to have and should be dropped immediately. Obviously with the rise of social media platforms it is a little distracting to not feel this way. This is because we all post the bests bits online, what I share on my Instagram is a collection of my highlights, the sugar coated moments of my life.
I only post about 2% of my daily activities online so don’t be fooled into thinking this life I share with you is perfect, I have down days too I just choose to not show them online.
The antidote to this green grass mentality is to focus and discipline your mind on your own business, own health and own successes, by doing so you eliminate room for envy on others and enjoy the fruits of your hard labour. Stop comparing yourself to others, only look back to see how far you have come and improved.

Self-pity, the world owes you nothing!
Feeling sorry for yourself is draining, it’s a common reaction to stressful events. In helpless times the easiest way out is to feel sorry for yourself. This attitude doesn’t help overcome the problem at hand, it simply wastes time; time that could be spent trying to find resolutions to issues.
When willowing in self-pity we expect others to notice our hardships and sympathise with us. The trap here is feeling a sense of entitlement, the idea that other people owe it to you to help get you out of a rut.
The brutal truth is they won’t. Everyone has their own drama to deal with, whether they choose to show it or not.
No one can adjust your attitude for you, no one can make you feel better. Your happiness is your responsibility, do not play the victim. If other people cannot help you, help yourself because the world owes you nothing. Switching to this attitude along with practising gratitude will make you miles more happier and in charge of your emotions.

No one controls you.
The feeling of not having control in your life because of someone else or a situation is a spin off emotion from self-pity, also a decoy into passing the responsibility and blame to someone else.
There is always a solution to every problem. Feeling trapped or controlled is detrimental to your progress and growth. No matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to achieve certain goals due to this mental cap.
Only you can chose the way you feel and decide what you focus on. This life is what we make it, we have the capability to be happy, carefree or stressed and depressed. The choice is ours, both ends of the spectrum require energy, it’s up to us where we focus it.
The discipline on what to focus on comes from within. One quote I found online and stuck with me was; ‘A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity, an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.’


It’s slow progress and hard to kill old habits but I’ve been practising the above for the past three years and it’s lead to a much more confident, happier and grateful Mitika, hope it helps you the same way.

Outfit - Top/Bershka Earrings/KateSpade Choker/DIY

New adventures

Today’s post is a little different, no outfit pictures this weekend, instead I have decided to talk a little about what I love, what interests me and basically what is going on in my life.
My irregular posts have been due to being busy with life in general. Not long ago Gurpreet and I moved into our own apartment and finally it is starting to feel like home. With all the rooms decorated and furnished it is quickly becoming my sanctuary. I love it! More so because last week we finally put some art work on the walls and this is where my excitement kicks in, not just any artwork, MY artwork!!
I am so proud of my illustration journey so far and absolutely love the drawings when they are professionally printed. I definitely feel a sense of accomplishment when looking back on the past couple of months.

This morning I have opened up an Etsy store, I plan to sell my favourite pieces online; so please do check it out (click this link to go to the shop) and support the artwork where you can, something as small as sharing it on social media or even purchasing a piece for your own four walls would be massively appreciated. After all my dream is to turn my 9-5 into a full time self employed illustration career so lets see how it goes!

I shop frequently in Costco the American wholesalers and when I get a chance I always dive into the book section. That’s my happy zone far far away from the cake isle which picks away at my self control! (if you are a Costco regular you will know their gigantic cakes test every ones will power) I found this absolute gem of a book last week, it is stunningly presented in a hardback case with foil embossing on the cover. The images inside are beautifully archived, it’s the type of book you can flick through and pass hours without realising. I think coffee table books are my weakness, I invest so much money on books I have my own little library. On a rainy day I don’t like to flick on the television, I gravitate towards my books and cosy up with them to be inspired.

Lemon tea is my saviour, I live by this drink (nothing fancy just boiling water and a slice of lemon) I drink glasses of this daily. I can’t promote the health benefits to you because in all honesty I don’t know them and I'm only sharing this because I literally love it but I do know its got one up in the health department over the cordials!

If you follow my snapchat then you will be aware of my obsession with all things Marc Jacobs lately. I recently started illustrating his collection for Autumn Winter 2016 only to be picked up on it by the man himself and his team! I was pretty gobsmacked but so appreciative of having access to the Internet and being in the right place at the right time. His team have supported my illustrations and helped expose my work to a much wider audience then I could have even dreamt of.

Through being noticed the team were kind enough to send me some goodies in the form of beauty products! I'm not a make up buff, but I do like to dabble with new things here and there so ill definitely wear this in my next post : )

And as we are on the note of make up, I think there is something I should share with you all, as you can see from most my posts my make up is always on the ‘natural’ side. Mainly because I have no idea how to apply foundation / contour / create a smokey eye, but also because I feel comfortable enough to wear little and go out. This product right here is one I will shout about from the rooftops, the link is here and I cannot tell you how much of a natural glow it gives you.
I purchased this over a year ago but the reason why I'm not showing you the contents on the inside is because I broke it. It is a shimmer brick of different shades which you brush over and apply to your face. This product DOES come with a sponge to help keep the brick in tact, I cleverly lost that sponge and my brick shattered into a handful of crumbs; this was a blessing in disguise though. Since the brick shattered the reflective particles in the palette have blended better then I could have imagined and now one sweep of the shimmer brick is all I need for day make up. If you don’t believe me go to the stores and try it! I am 100% certain it will create a glow effect on every skin tone. Thank me later : )
Well I hope you enjoyed reading, I will definitely be posting more fashion posts soon. Have a lovely week! x