Saturday, 23 December 2017

Getting used to being pregnant.


Admittedly the first few months of pregnancy got me down, it was physically and mentally exhausting, not to mention we were in the process of moving homes and my grandfather passed away on the day I was admitted into hospital for Hyperemesis Grvidarum so the stress of everything came all at once.
Unfortunate, but that’s just how things pan out sometimes.
After getting my head around the whole situation I started to enjoy it. I felt comfortable in my own skin again, I accepted these changes were temporary and at the end of it my body will produce a tiny human.
The further I got into my pregnancy I kept thinking about time and how it wont wait for anyone.


As a young woman who has dedicated herself whole heartedly to education, working and being a financially stable individual, I can relate to all the other ladies who push aside the idea of bearing a child until they have satisfied all their career goals.
After all, if we work just as hard as our counterparts why should we give it all up in an instant? Expected to bear the struggles of growing a child and still continue with life without any special allowances.
I guess that’s just the biological lottery women lost out on when we were created.
My main point here is, even though there is that inner battle in most women on when they will or wont be ready, it’s almost a gamble.
It’s a gamble because we are already born with a finite number of eggs.

‘Women are born with approximately two million eggs in their ovaries, but about eleven thousand of them die every month prior to puberty. As a teenager, a womanhas only three hundred thousand to four hundred thousand remaining eggs, and from that point on, approximately one thousand eggs are destined to die each month.’


But what if these statistics don’t run true for you, what if you are the minority where you waited too long?
It’s unfair to say the least, but if you have a partner, see a future with them and dream of having a family, my advice would be don’t wait.
We are never ready for anything until thrown in the deep end. Pregnancy isn’t an easy task, nor is raising the children but the sooner it’s done, I believe the easier it will be.

‘’ I felt like I may not get opportunities to do this ever again, so it’s about time—it’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There’s almost no such thing as ready. There’s only now ‘’ - Hugh Laurie


One of the wonders of being a woman is even after bearing the task of growing and raising children, we are still capable of fitting back into society and can achieve goals and unimaginable achievements. That being said, it’s a shame we’re still seen as secondary in many aspects of life.

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Thursday, 25 May 2017

Trusting the process



Ever felt a little uneasy about the situation you’re in? Whether we like it or not, where we are today is a direct result of the choices we have made in life. I go through a cycle of emotions regularly about my state of mind / progress in life / general status of what my purpose is. Here are three things I picked up along the way…

Have faith in the process.
It doesn’t matter what you are going through, sometimes we are presented with situations that make us question our purpose, or the direction we thought we should be taking in life. As much as we can plan events in our life we are all thrown curveballs that derail our original thought process.
Instead of throwing hands in the air and giving up, I think the best way to approach a nightmare unfolding is head on, keeping in mind the following;
- try to be logical – don’t make rash decisions or act on impulse when everything falls apart.
- try to maintain your character in a productive way and solve issues as methodically as possible. I sometimes get over emotional and start excessively thinking when I’m at wits end; usually this extra stress I create for myself don’t help the situation at all. Stay calm, remember your strength and carry on logically.
- As well as being present and thinking in the moment, try to react to situations that your future self can benefit from, short term resolutions will only lead to dead ends again. How can you flip the curve ball around to work in your favour? How can you make it a growing process to help you build character strength? Both of those will benefit your future self.




Who’s grass? How green?
Sometimes I find myself thinking, how is it not possible I haven’t achieved X Y and Z by now, and others have. What are they doing that I’m not? Who did they approach for answers on this, this and this? What help did they get? What are their secrets?


Stop right there! Who cares! Everyone struggles and everyone has a battle to fight, don’t compare yourself to them, it can bring out insecurities, envy and stress. Look a little closer to home and see your own development.
This life is not a race. This life is what we make it, we can spend days looking out the window and envying others or aspiring to be like them, when doing this we are wasting our present time and losing our inner peace.
I find I’m most happiest when I’m ignoring 99% of the world and staying in my own little bubble and progressing at my own little pace.
For instance since I’ve started writing my thoughts down in this blog, I’ve learnt how much I love sharing my musings, I love reading what others think, I love that I’m not so focused on the material aspect of blogging as much.
I’ve come to understand blogging is my process for documenting my creativity, my thoughts and a chunk of my life I can look back on;
It’s my little story, not anyone else’, so with that attitude I have eliminated room for comparisons and by magic the stress of being concerned with what others are doing or seeing them as competition has disappeared.




Work on you
I know I’ve mentioned this before, but working on yourself is paramount, just because your skills aren’t needed today doesn’t mean an opportunity wont pop up when they are needed. You have to have a positive mental attitude towards being prepared at all times for what you want in life.
Maybe today isn’t your day, maybe tomorrow isn’t but with consistent self-development your future self can benefit from being well prepared for any situation.
I don’t believe in overnight successes, I believe in being in the right place at the right time and being prepared. So do yourself the biggest favour you can and invest in yourself because from what I’ve learnt no one else will.

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Sunday, 3 April 2016

New adventures

Today’s post is a little different, no outfit pictures this weekend, instead I have decided to talk a little about what I love, what interests me and basically what is going on in my life.
My irregular posts have been due to being busy with life in general. Not long ago Gurpreet and I moved into our own apartment and finally it is starting to feel like home. With all the rooms decorated and furnished it is quickly becoming my sanctuary. I love it! More so because last week we finally put some art work on the walls and this is where my excitement kicks in, not just any artwork, MY artwork!!
I am so proud of my illustration journey so far and absolutely love the drawings when they are professionally printed. I definitely feel a sense of accomplishment when looking back on the past couple of months.
This morning I have opened up an Etsy store, I plan to sell my favourite pieces online; so please do check it out (click this link to go to the shop) and support the artwork where you can, something as small as sharing it on social media or even purchasing a piece for your own four walls would be massively appreciated. After all my dream is to turn my 9-5 into a full time self employed illustration career so lets see how it goes!
I shop frequently in Costco the American wholesalers and when I get a chance I always dive into the book section. That’s my happy zone far far away from the cake isle which picks away at my self control! (if you are a Costco regular you will know their gigantic cakes test every ones will power) I found this absolute gem of a book last week, it is stunningly presented in a hardback case with foil embossing on the cover. The images inside are beautifully archived, it’s the type of book you can flick through and pass hours without realising. I think coffee table books are my weakness, I invest so much money on books I have my own little library. On a rainy day I don’t like to flick on the television, I gravitate towards my books and cosy up with them to be inspired.
Lemon tea is my saviour, I live by this drink (nothing fancy just boiling water and a slice of lemon) I drink glasses of this daily. I can’t promote the health benefits to you because in all honesty I don’t know them and I'm only sharing this because I literally love it but I do know its got one up in the health department over the cordials!
If you follow my snapchat then you will be aware of my obsession with all things Marc Jacobs lately. I recently started illustrating his collection for Autumn Winter 2016 only to be picked up on it by the man himself and his team! I was pretty gobsmacked but so appreciative of having access to the Internet and being in the right place at the right time. His team have supported my illustrations and helped expose my work to a much wider audience then I could have even dreamt of.
Through being noticed the team were kind enough to send me some goodies in the form of beauty products! I'm not a make up buff, but I do like to dabble with new things here and there so ill definitely wear this in my next post : )
And as we are on the note of make up, I think there is something I should share with you all, as you can see from most my posts my make up is always on the ‘natural’ side. Mainly because I have no idea how to apply foundation / contour / create a smokey eye, but also because I feel comfortable enough to wear little and go out. This product right here is one I will shout about from the rooftops, the link is here and I cannot tell you how much of a natural glow it gives you.
I purchased this over a year ago but the reason why I'm not showing you the contents on the inside is because I broke it. It is a shimmer brick of different shades which you brush over and apply to your face. This product DOES come with a sponge to help keep the brick in tact, I cleverly lost that sponge and my brick shattered into a handful of crumbs; this was a blessing in disguise though. Since the brick shattered the reflective particles in the palette have blended better then I could have imagined and now one sweep of the shimmer brick is all I need for day make up. If you don’t believe me go to the stores and try it! I am 100% certain it will create a glow effect on every skin tone. Thank me later : )
Well I hope you enjoyed reading, I will definitely be posting more fashion posts soon. Have a lovely week! x
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Thursday, 3 March 2016

Faux Fur


Outfit - Jumper/Primark Scarf/H&M Skirt/H&M Coat/Zara Hat/Zara Bag/ArmaniExchange Gloves/Accessorize
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Sunday, 25 October 2015

clouds + mountains + waterfalls


We are so so lucky to be living in a city where art and creativity is at our finger tips. I believe to express yourself through art is a gift, I connect with so many people through visuals and creativity before even meeting them in person.
Gurpreet isn’t a self confessed art buff, but thats why I enjoy his company, his outlook on many things in life is much more thought out and logical then mine; he always has an alternative view on things and this is why we click so well.
Luckily we managed to make a trip to Sadie Coles HQ to see the amazing clouds + mountains + waterfalls exhibition by Ugo Rondinone.
Maybe its psychological but just seeing a room filled with vibrant colours felt extremely uplifting. It was a beautiful expressive collection of sculptures and painting depicting the clouds, mountains and waterfalls.
Even though I focus on fashion 80% of the time, different art forms play a huge part in my design process especially when conducting the initial research for a project.
It’s like breath of fresh air to look at other creative fields when working on your own.
We will be making a trip to the Tate Modern soon, I am so excited to see the Infinity Mirrored Room by Yayoi Kusama. I’d love to know if you have any Museum / Exhibition recommendations. suritimestwo@gmail.com Email me them : )


As mentioned in the last post, a midi does not have to be evening wear, chucks, a little layering and a bowler hat to top it off make it a very daytime look. Trust me, everyone needs a midi in their wardrobe!


Outfit - Dress/Zara Shirt/Mango Jacket/Zara (Similar) Scarf/H&M (Similar) Hat/Primark (Similar) Bag/Reiss (Similar) Bracelets/OttomanHands, 2, 3 Rings/OttomanHands, 2, Evil eye ring coming soon. Use code 15MITIKA15 for 15% off on all Ottoman Hands purchases.
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